Coming Out Age:  29

Story:

I am not exactly out, and not exactly in. I have
 claimed to be bisexual since I new that term existed when I
 was in High School. In fact, I didnt understand
 homosexuality much until that time because my parents were
 less than open about sex.  

BUT... when I was 15.. I fell in love with a girl, and
 I knew that I did but wasn't sure how to express it.
  Luckily, she and I became friends, and we knew
 something was there between us.  After a football game, she
 and I had a drunken encounter that sealed the deal
 that this was real.  

Over the next few years, she and I struggled with our
 friendship and whatever this was between us. We dated
 boys, men, and occaisionnally had more drunken
 encounters.  As we moved on to college, I became more aware
 of my sexuality, and considered that I was in fact a
 lesbian.  At the time, my friend resisted, naturally
 since we were both scared and confused about what was
 going on.

Over the next few years, our relationship as friends
 would be on and off, stressed by this confusion of what
 was going on. I came to terms on my own that I knew I
 was in love with her, and had always been. 

As we have reached our late 20s, and with the help of
 social networking sites, she and I have reconnected. I
 maintained my secret because I was fearful she and I
 would argue and sever the friendship again.  As it
 turns out, I found out she was getting married, and I was
 devastated. I too was already married for nearly 3
 years, but I was still heartbroken.  She and I were able
 to reconcile or conceal what had been going on enough
 for me to host a bachelorrette party for her.  On
 that night, another drunken encounter, except this time I
 was more clear headed to confess my love. She
 confessed as well.  

She did get married, and I am still married. We have
 remained friends, and over the last few months have
 grown stronger about our strange relationship.  We
 finally opened up, without alchohol as an agent or a drunken
 encounter. We sat face to face and just talked,
 honestly, and came out to each other.   After 14 years, we
 finally said what we have always wanted to say.
  Phew... we joked that at this rate.. we will be together in
 our 40s... :-) 

Now... we are not sure what to do.  Both married,
 outwardly happy, and unsure what to do. We both feel
 relief that we can finally be more open about this to one
 another, but not sure what to do next. 

I was happy when I was able to watch the Oprah show,
 the only what I ever watched coincidentally, about
 Married Women that are Lesbians that had Joanne Fleisher. 

Thank you for this site as resource, and thank you for
 letting me share my story.  Every little bit helps.